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Lent, Chocolate, and the Art of Retirement

"Love this article, Mark. I cannot get through a day without recurrent chocolate, not just the dark and healthy stuff but the milk chocolate dreck. You know how drug addicts go to Betty Ford for rehab? Well, I tell people that I went to the Betty Crocker Clinic. And they kicked me out. But I can also say with gleeful truthfulness that for me, trash chocolate is also medicinal. Type 1 diabetes means I have occasional blood sugar crashes, especially working out. Most diabetics treat those with glucose tablets or fruit juice. Not me. I carry Kit Kats in my gym bag. It's all an excuse, of course, for indulgence. I have always rejected the concept of self-denial for the sake of self-denial, or worse yet for religious reasons like Passover or kosher dietary laws. Life is to be savored. And allowed to melt on your tongue."
- Mike Gaynes
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Stock Market Contest

"If the students are picking individual stocks I hope the teacher “picks” a broad based low fee ETF or mutual fund and then 🤞it outperforms all of the students’ portfolios."
- David Lancaster
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Blood Money

"Since you are selling stocks in your 401k why do you care what the cost basis is?"
- Jim Burrows
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A Big Little Move (by Dana/DrLefty)

"There is not a legal reason. My issue in not doing so currently is there would now be the additional legal expense to re-title and record the deed transfer to the RLT (in addition to the legal cost to initially create the revocable living trust (RLT) which we do not currently have) and it is also my understanding that the particular, mostly unused, large home equity line of credit (HELOC) that we have would also have to be re-established and I worry that since I have stopped working and my earned income has ended I do not know if I would be able to get a new HELOC with the high limit and terms that my current HELOC loan has. I expect that if my spouse dies first I would downsize my residence by moving and my wife would certainly have to move because of her current limited mobility should I die first. Thus when either of us dies or I become unable to maintain our current home a move is in our future. Where Dana lives, in California, I believe she can choose to include a transfer on death provision as part of the titling in a deed in lieu of using a RVT but my state currently does not allow for TOD provisions in deeds. Fortunately my state intestacy provisions currently matches our bequest intents when including post death transfers via beneficiary designations and joint ownership. In the unlikely event that my wife and I die at the same time I expect the probate process is not so onerous in my state for what assets I will expect will be left as my state allows for a simplified administration process for small estates."
- William Perry
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Any concern?

"No problem, I have a pension and Social Security, neither is correlated with the market. I have an IRA and Roth for inflation but haven't started doing withdrawals yet. Turning 70 in June. Any drops are a time to buy."
- Tim Mueller
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Giving Up on Owning a Home

"Yeah, I remember those mortgage rates."
- Dan Smith
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Social Security Spousal Benefits

"This is a great description of the rules involved with figuring social security benefits when coordinating with a spouse. I know it has been mentioned before, but I think the Open Social Security calculator is worth mentioning here again in helping to strategize when to claim benefits."
- Doug C
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Quinn’s super frugal experiment. Are you up for a challenge?

"Ed, yes, thank you for asking. Everything went through fine, I updated in my guardianship post from December. Spouse will have to do a report to the court every 2 years. We were also very relieved that the bond we thought we would have to post, was waived by the judge. The “big” things like the house and car sale have closed. We are sleeping better. C"
- baldscreen
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The Cardinal Sin

THERE’S A LITANY of investment sins. But one may top them all. I’m guessing it’s one you haven’t given much thought to. Until recently, neither did I. The cardinal investment sin: selling your winners too soon. From 1926 to 2016, more than half of all U.S. stocks—57.4% to be exact—returned less than one-month Treasury bills. In other words, you were better off putting your money into risk-free T-bills than owning these stocks. In fact, more than half of common stocks delivered negative total returns. These stats come from an academic paper by finance professor Hendrik Bessembinder. Now here’s the real kicker: Bessembinder found that the best-performing shares, a mere 4% of all stocks, were responsible for the stock market’s entire gain over and above T-bills. The remaining 96% of companies collectively generated returns that simply matched one-month T-bills. These findings have profound implications for investors. If just 4% of stocks—we'll call them the winners—account for the lion’s share of stock market returns, you had better own them or you’re doomed to underperform the market. If you invest in total market index funds, you will own these winners by default. On the other hand, if you’re picking individual stocks, your odds aren’t great. But let’s say you’re really smart (or lucky) and happen to pick a fair share of the winners. You face another big hurdle. You must hold on to your winners and not sell them prematurely. Unfortunately, this is easier said than done. Most investors display a strong tendency to sell their winners and ride their losers. This has been termed the disposition effect, first described by behavioral economists Hersh Shefrin and Meir Statman. The disposition effect can be explained by mental accounting and loss aversion. When an investor buys a stock, a mental account is subconsciously created. The initial investment or cost basis is recorded in this account. If the position is subsequently sold for less than its cost basis, the mental account is closed at a loss. Since losses are painful—particularly to our egos—investors do everything in their power to avoid this from happening, hence the tendency for investors to cling to their losers and even double down on them. Mental accounting also explains why investors are so quick to sell their winners. Selling a position for a gain closes the mental account in the black. This feels good and strokes the investor’s ego. It also serves as a salve for the pain caused by the losers in the portfolio. Prospect theory says that investors weigh losses more heavily than equal-sized gains. That means the mental anguish from a $1,000 loss must be counterbalanced by gains far in excess of $1,000, thus serving as further impetus for selling winners. From a tax standpoint, the disposition effect is an anomaly that shouldn’t exist. After all, our tax code rewards us for taking capital losses and penalizes our capital gains. Despite these incentives, the disposition effect is alive and well. It appears that investors are willing to pay a heavy tax to preserve their self-esteem. [xyz-ihs snippet="Mobile-Subscribe"] Taxes aside, consider the enormous damage done to a portfolio by selling winners too early. As demonstrated in Bessembinder’s paper, strip out the big winners from a portfolio and you are left with middling returns that are on par with T-bills. Why are the winners so vital to a portfolio? Because of the inherent asymmetry between losers and winners. A losing stock has limited downside. At worst, it can go to zero. In fact, in Bessembinder’s study, a 100% loss was the single most frequent outcome for individual stocks over their lifetime. On the other hand, winners had virtually unlimited upside. If you talk to seasoned investors, most will confess they struggle far more with the sell decision than the buy one. A recent study of institutional investors confirms this striking discrepancy. While the authors found clear evidence of skill in buying, selling decisions underperformed badly. In fact, they were worse than random selling strategies. Given the data from Bessembinder’s paper and the behavioral biases plaguing the sell decision, perhaps the best strategy is the one espoused by Warren Buffett: "When we own portions of outstanding businesses with outstanding managements, our favorite holding period is forever. We are just the opposite of those who hurry to sell and book profits when companies perform well but who tenaciously hang on to businesses that disappoint. [Celebrated fund manager] Peter Lynch aptly likens such behavior to cutting the flowers and watering the weeds." The greatest investing sin may also explain why active managers find it so hard to beat mindless index funds. Notwithstanding lower fees, cap-weighted index funds have fundamental advantages over their actively managed brethren. As alluded to earlier, a total market index fund by definition will own all the winners. More important, it lets them ride. The manager of an index fund won’t be tempted to sell the winners, nor does he have an ego to preserve. What’s my advice to active managers and stock pickers? As much as possible, ignore your cost basis and focus on the fundamentals. Remember that the market is right most of the time, so let your losers go and enjoy the tax loss harvest. Most important, fight the urge to cash in on your winners with every fiber of your being. John Lim is a physician and author of "How to Raise Your Child's Financial IQ," which is available as both a free PDF and a Kindle edition. Follow John on Twitter @JohnTLim and check out his earlier articles. 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Very Fast, Not Very Smart

"Your comment give me a glorious mental image of greedy gerbils stuffing their cheek pouches with money while the bankrupt lemmings hurl themselves off a cliff in despair. I know, Norm — my mind needs a serious talking to."
- Mark Crothers
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Lent, Chocolate, and the Art of Retirement

"Love this article, Mark. I cannot get through a day without recurrent chocolate, not just the dark and healthy stuff but the milk chocolate dreck. You know how drug addicts go to Betty Ford for rehab? Well, I tell people that I went to the Betty Crocker Clinic. And they kicked me out. But I can also say with gleeful truthfulness that for me, trash chocolate is also medicinal. Type 1 diabetes means I have occasional blood sugar crashes, especially working out. Most diabetics treat those with glucose tablets or fruit juice. Not me. I carry Kit Kats in my gym bag. It's all an excuse, of course, for indulgence. I have always rejected the concept of self-denial for the sake of self-denial, or worse yet for religious reasons like Passover or kosher dietary laws. Life is to be savored. And allowed to melt on your tongue."
- Mike Gaynes
Read more »

Stock Market Contest

"If the students are picking individual stocks I hope the teacher “picks” a broad based low fee ETF or mutual fund and then 🤞it outperforms all of the students’ portfolios."
- David Lancaster
Read more »

Blood Money

"Since you are selling stocks in your 401k why do you care what the cost basis is?"
- Jim Burrows
Read more »

A Big Little Move (by Dana/DrLefty)

"There is not a legal reason. My issue in not doing so currently is there would now be the additional legal expense to re-title and record the deed transfer to the RLT (in addition to the legal cost to initially create the revocable living trust (RLT) which we do not currently have) and it is also my understanding that the particular, mostly unused, large home equity line of credit (HELOC) that we have would also have to be re-established and I worry that since I have stopped working and my earned income has ended I do not know if I would be able to get a new HELOC with the high limit and terms that my current HELOC loan has. I expect that if my spouse dies first I would downsize my residence by moving and my wife would certainly have to move because of her current limited mobility should I die first. Thus when either of us dies or I become unable to maintain our current home a move is in our future. Where Dana lives, in California, I believe she can choose to include a transfer on death provision as part of the titling in a deed in lieu of using a RVT but my state currently does not allow for TOD provisions in deeds. Fortunately my state intestacy provisions currently matches our bequest intents when including post death transfers via beneficiary designations and joint ownership. In the unlikely event that my wife and I die at the same time I expect the probate process is not so onerous in my state for what assets I will expect will be left as my state allows for a simplified administration process for small estates."
- William Perry
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Any concern?

"No problem, I have a pension and Social Security, neither is correlated with the market. I have an IRA and Roth for inflation but haven't started doing withdrawals yet. Turning 70 in June. Any drops are a time to buy."
- Tim Mueller
Read more »

Giving Up on Owning a Home

"Yeah, I remember those mortgage rates."
- Dan Smith
Read more »

Social Security Spousal Benefits

"This is a great description of the rules involved with figuring social security benefits when coordinating with a spouse. I know it has been mentioned before, but I think the Open Social Security calculator is worth mentioning here again in helping to strategize when to claim benefits."
- Doug C
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Manifesto

NO. 35: OUR ODDS of beating the market averages over a lifetime of investing are so small they’re hardly worth considering. Overconfident investors insist on trying. Rational investors index.

Truths

NO. 30: TO MAKE money, investors must overcome the triple threat of costs, taxes and inflation. Suppose your investments climb 6% over the next year. If your advisor charges 1% and you buy funds that charge 1%, you’ll be left with 4%. If you lose a quarter of your gain to taxes, that 4% becomes 3%. What if inflation is 3%? Your effective gain is zero.

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SOCIAL PROOF. We take our cues from others, assuming what’s popular is also good. That’s a smart strategy with movies, cars, restaurants and electronic gadgets. It’s often a terrible strategy with investments, because we find ourselves buying into stocks and market sectors that have already been bid up—and will likely have modest future returns.

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CONSIDER A TARGET-date fund. Financial advisors push the notion that every investor needs a customized portfolio—and, indeed, we all like the idea that we have an investment mix specially designed for us. Yet most of us, whether we’re investing on our own or through an advisor, would likely fare just as well by buying a single target-date retirement fund.

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NO. 35: OUR ODDS of beating the market averages over a lifetime of investing are so small they’re hardly worth considering. Overconfident investors insist on trying. Rational investors index.

Spotlight: Retirement

Going too far with FIRE: The downside of being in the financial advice business – RDQ

I always thought the glowing stories of FIRE folks were a bit dodgy. Much of the time they aren’t even retired in the traditional sense. Sometimes they go too far sharing their acquired wisdom for cash.
I followed one blogger for several years. She shared her frugal ways, extreme in my view like buying her two-year olds shoes in a second hand thrift shop. She wrote a book, gained a lot of publicity, was featured in news articles and gave advice. 

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Cash Balance Plan Explained

IMAGINE YOU ARE already doing all things possible to minimize your taxes:

You are maxing out your pre-tax 401k
You do tax loss harvesting
You did tax efficient placement
You are maximizing Roth IRA through Backdoor Roth

But what other strategies can you use to minimize taxes? You also might not want to start a business or buy real estate.
Another option that many people aren’t aware of is the cash balance plan (CBP).

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Today’s the Day!

Well, I tried to stay up until midnight to pop a cork, but it just wasn’t happening. So today I woke up as a retired person!  If you’ve read my articles from 2024 on the topic, you know this didn’t sneak up on me.
My road through the logistics of retiring from two university systems and applying for Medicare went…somewhat smoothly. I was pretty meticulous in my preparation. I attended webinars for both systems last year and put the application dates on my calendar.

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Bashing the 401k scam – looking for a better idea. RDQ says it’s misunderstood

I recently read – again – that 401k plans are a scam. You can’t save enough, you can lose money, etc.
Consider these words of wisdom. “It is a scam. When I worked in corporate America I contributed the max amount each year. At the time it was $19k per year. It took 5+ years to hit $100k. When I stopped contributing it barely grew.”
We don’t know the years involved, but nevertheless it’s nonsense. Investing the $19,000 a year even in a GIC would get you over $100,000 in less than five years. 

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Asset Protection Ideas

MANY PEOPLE FOCUS on building wealth through asset allocation and investment choices. Far fewer think about asset protection. In my opinion, protecting wealth is just as important as building it, especially since decades of disciplined saving and investing can be undone in one unfortunate event.
In this article, I wanted to discuss some of the strategies and tips that I’ve learned, and implemented in my personal finance journey.
Quick disclaimer: I’m not a lawyer,

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Financial Happiness

ACCORDING TO THE World Happiness Report, Finland ranks as the happiest nation in the world, a title it’s held for eight years in a row.
Each time this report is updated, it makes the news for a day or two but then fades. That’s for good reason, I think. As much as Finland might be a nice place, it isn’t necessarily practical to suggest that anyone pick up and move.
The good news, though,

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Spotlight: Ferris

Six Months In! (from Dana/DrLefty)

Happy New Year, HumbleDollar folks! Today, besides being the first day of 2026, is also the six-month anniversary of my retirement. How's it going so far? I thought I'd follow up on a couple of posts from last year--this one was a year ago today (a "six months out" post). So far, I absolutely love being retired. Seriously, I'm just ecstatic about it. I said to my husband recently, "I thought I'd miss it (my career) a little bit." After all, even though university politics had soured me on my day job, I always loved teaching, and I enjoyed it right up through my last day of class in June. But I'm just feeling a sense of relief about the absence of responsibility. The Biggest News. After a few months of watching me live my best life, my husband started rethinking the "maybe I'll work until 70" plan (we're 65). His contract with his firm requires six months notice, so he's planning to give notice on April 1 for an October 1 retirement date. (Why that date? He has a couple of projects he wants to see through, and bonuses are paid in August.) It's possible that they'll ask him to stay on either as a part-time employee or as a consultant--he has a pretty specific skill set that will be hard to replace--and he's open to that, but he's committed to being done with full-time employment by October 1, 2026. How I'm Spending Time. That has gone pretty much as I expected. After a lot of travel over the summer, we had a quieter fall mostly at home. I'm working on several academic writing projects (a new edition of one of my books, journal articles from my final two research projects, and a new collection I'm co-editing). I'm trying to work on those…
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Final Arrangements: A Learning Curve

As I’ve written here before, my mother-in-law has been dealing with Alzheimer’s, and this last year has been a constant learning curve of navigating long-term care policies, trying out in-home caregivers (pretty major fail), and finally a memory care residential facility. Well, this past week was a new challenge. My MIL passed away suddenly on Tuesday night. We got a call from the memory care facility that she’d fainted several times,  so they’d called an ambulance. We were concerned, but she’d had issues with fainting before. 20 minutes later, a hospital nurse called and said she’d arrested (she had an DNR order) and died on the way to the hospital. It was very abruptly conveyed, and the nurse barely took a breath before asking which local mortuary we’d like the body transferred to.  We said we’d have to call her husband (my husband’s stepfather) and get back to them. It was a traumatic few minutes. Alzheimer’s notwithstanding, she’d otherwise been in good health and had never had heart problems. She was 84. Anyway, the real drama involved the final arrangements. My in-laws had purchased cemetery plots in Palo Alto, CA, where other family members have been laid to rest. But they live in Southern California, some 400 miles from this cemetery. Nothing had been set up with a local mortuary. We had to really quickly find one that (a) would take the body from the hospital (b) prepare the body for a 400-mile road trip and (c) transport the body. Then we had to figure what would happen on the other end after the transport. My father-in-law also had to go to the local mortuary and fill out lots of paperwork as next-of-kin to get the body released. He’s 82 and gets easily confused and frustrated. My husband had offered…
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Another IRMAA Question

Jerry’s post reminded me of something I’ve been wondering about. We both hit 65 this year and started Medicare. We pay a hefty IRMAA up charge because it’s based on our 2023 income, when we were both working. I retired in July. Though I’m drawing pension income, my gross income has obviously dropped. However, between my pensions, my husband’s pension, and his current salary, I’m guessing that filing for a change in status reconsideration wouldn’t adjust the big picture. BUT—my husband has now settled on retiring next year (October 1). That means that as of 2027, our income will drop substantially, and it should lower our IRMAA hit considerably. My question is: Do I need to file the form now (having retired) about my change in status, even if it won’t change the IRMAA charge for 2026? Will it be too late to ask for the adjustment after he also retires?
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Family Dynamics, Part 2: Supporting Adult Children

As I mentioned in my last post, I've been thinking about various ways that complex family dynamics can affect one's own finances, especially when we're in or headed toward the retirement years. Today's topic is about having adult children on the "family payroll," long after one might have assumed they'd be completely independent. A 2024 study published by the Pew Research Center reported that about one-third of young adults (ages 18-34) still live with their parents and that about 55% of American parents provide varying degrees of financial assistance or support to their young adult children. There are a lot of factors that contribute to this finding, such as the high cost of housing and education as well as setbacks caused by the 2008-09 recession (for Millennials in particular) and the pandemic (for Gen Z). For the sake of narrowing this discussion, let's exclude the following fact patterns: The young adult is in college and the parents are paying all or some of their expenses. The young adult is physically or mentally disabled and for that reason will never be financially independent. The family has cultural or religious beliefs that lead young adult children to continue living with their parents, until or sometimes even after they're married. Instead, let's focus on young adults who are not still in college, who are seemingly capable of earning a living, and whose family/cultural norms do not dictate their continuing to live at home. Obviously, those of us who are parents want our adult children to be independent, self-sufficient, thriving, and happy. We want that for their best interests and we want it for our own financial well-being. Few of us signed up to support our children for a lifetime, and most of us can't afford to do so. But what happens when those…
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Improving My Habits

THE PROLIFIC MR. QUINN recently wrote that people who were irresponsible in one area of their life, such as failing to return shopping carts, also tend to be irresponsible in other areas, like managing their finances. He’s probably right. Still, I’ve had times when, even though I’m a “responsible person”—I’ve had a successful career, my kids lived to grow up, and so forth—I nonetheless had pockets of disorder in my life. For me, the two biggest areas of chaos were managing money and maintaining a healthy diet and exercise regimen. I’m embarrassed to think back on the bounced checks, late fees, and even the checks I accidentally threw away because I was distracted and disorganized. I’m even more horrified to think about how many fast food and vending machine “meals” I ate because I hadn’t been to the store or found time to eat a proper breakfast or pack a lunch. There was even the gym membership that I had for seven years, which I paid for—but never once used. These unacceptable patterns needed to be changed. Responsibly managing one’s finances is important. Ditto for attending to one’s health, as Rick Connor has written in several pieces. Thus, I’m happy to report that I have restored order in both of these important areas. Our bills are paid on time, our credit scores are pristine, we have no debt beyond our mortgage, and we have savings, insurance and an estate plan. As for health and fitness, I’ve lost nearly 60 pounds since 2020, I’m absolutely devoted to working out and I’m now at a healthy weight for my height. When I had recent lab work, my doctor told me everything looked great, and “just keep up the good work.” How did I do it? The short answer is habit formation—James Clear’s…
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Aging in Place: Count the Cost(s)

My mother-in-law has Alzheimer’s. It’s very advanced, and over the last year, her husband (my husband’s stepfather) has been unable to keep handling her care on his own. We would help, but they live 400 miles away from us, and we’re still working. His plan was to move them into a senior living community (just a 55+ community, not a CCRC), remodel the unit, and hire in-home caregivers as needed. He even added an extra bed and bath to their new unit so a caregiver could live in or sleep over. That was the plan. It didn’t work, for several reasons. First, he only had minimal part-time care, about 15 hours a week. Then he had a medical emergency and had to be hospitalized for three full days, leading to a frantic scramble to get my mother-in-law’s care covered. This was a wake-up call for him that his Plan A (himself as primary caregiver with occasional relief shifts from the caregiving agency) was based on some very dubious assumptions—for example, that an 82-year-old man with a history of heart issues and cancer could handle the stress, mentally and physically. After he got out of the hospital, he went up to nearly full-time in-home care, including most nights. This wasn’t great for my MIL because she was confused and upset by the rotating cast of strangers coming into her home. She’s always been a sweet and easygoing person, but some of the caregivers rubbed her the wrong way—too bossy—and she’d mix it up with them. What my father-in-law didn’t understand is that with a dementia patient, one size doesn’t fit all with caregivers. Some of the people the agency sent just didn’t know how to deal with her. Most significantly, the in-home care cost a fortune. The agency charges $35/hour. For…
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