Humans can’t sit quietly: We’re always fretting, always dissatisfied, always trying to make progress, always trying to divine the future.
After spending more than two decades building a successful landscaping business with his twin brother Nicholas, Andrew Clements retired in 2015 with a new appreciation for what matters most. Born in England, his essays draw on a life that has included growing up in England and Bangladesh, entrepreneurship, caregiving, family loss and travel. A regular HumbleDollar contributor, he enjoys tellingstories that remind readers life’s richest lessons often have little to do with money. Andrew is the older brother of HumbleDollar founder Jonathan Clements, whose life and legacy have inspired some of his most personal writing. He lives in Florida with his husband, Joey.From HumbleDollar Founder Jonathan Clements
MOST OF US ARE forever striving to be better versions of ourselves—usually with mixed success. Still, the changing of the calendar often prompts renewed efforts. But what should we focus on? Let me offer 10 words that I try to live by.
1. Pause. Throughout the day, we make snap decisions, and they usually work out just fine—except when it comes to spending and investment choices. Got an overwhelming urge to buy an expensive bauble or make a portfolio change? Try waiting a few days, so your feverish desire has a chance to cool and you can ponder the decision with a clearer head.
2. Reflect. Feeling down? Take a minute to think about your good fortune—the friends and family who surround you, the home you live in, the wonderful experiences you’ve enjoyed, the wealth you’ve accumulated. With gratitude comes happiness.
3. Move. Exercise has all kinds of benefits—physical, emotional and cognitive. If possible, try to get your exercise outside, so you can delight in nature, see your fellow humans at play and feel the sun upon your face.
4. Give. This doesn’t have to be money. You can also give of your time by, say, volunteering for your favorite charity or helping out at your place of worship. I see this every day: HumbleDollar’s writers get paid little—and some decline payment—and yet they pour countless hours into their articles. Trust me, they’re a wonderful bunch of folks to work with.
5. Sleep. This is one of my greatest struggles. I know I sleep better when I’ve been active during the day, eat earlier in the evening and have addressed any major worries. What if these things don’t happen? You’ll find me answering emails at 4 a.m.
6. Simplify. Over the past few years, I’ve been shedding both possessions and financial accounts. I highly recommend it. It’s liberating to be less encumbered by both financial complexity and household items you no longer care about. Afraid you’ll dispose of something and later regret it? I’ve shed countless items and, thus far, I haven’t had a single pang of regret.
7. Talk. We, of course, do a lot of talking, but we often avoid the important stuff, especially when it comes to our finances. Too many folks shy away from honest conversations about money, partly because they fear they’ll reveal their ignorance or they’re embarrassed that they haven't amassed more.
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Get over it. Within families, I think the onus is on the parents to start these conversations, talking about what financial contributions they can afford to make toward college costs, how well they’ve prepared for their own retirement and what steps they’ve taken to address end-of-life issues. Such conversations don’t just keep everybody informed. They can also spur all concerned to be better managers of their money.
8. Listen. We tend to be much better at talking than listening. There’s an obvious reason to be a better listener: We can learn about others and their perspective on the world, and that may nudge us to change our own views. But there’s also a less obvious reason: People will like you more. Want to endear yourself? Stop talking about yourself and ask others about their lives.
9. Never. Our most important actions are often the ones we don’t take. Indeed, in a world full of temptation, it’s useful to decide what’s verboten. My list includes individual stocks, fried chicken, actively managed funds, hard liquor, CNBC and processed meats. (Okay, I admit it, pepperoni gets the all-important pizza exception.)
10. Anticipate. I love having fun times to look forward to. Last January, I made the arrangements for the get-together for my 60th birthday—which won’t happen until next month. In August, I booked a cruise from New York to Bermuda—for March 2024. Every so often, I daydream about what the cruise and my birthday celebration will be like, and that daydreaming offers a thoroughly enjoyable minute or so that costs me nothing.
Want to squeeze more happiness from your dollars? My advice: Plan that vacation, family reunion or remodeling project well in advance—and make sure you do a lot of research, so you have the pleasure of imagining all kinds of possibilities.
Jonathan Clements is the founder and editor of HumbleDollar. Follow him on Twitter @ClementsMoney and on Facebook, and check out his earlier articles. [xyz-ihs snippet="Donate"]
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Adam M. Grossman is the founder of Mayport, a fixed-fee wealth management firm. Sign up for Adam's Daily Ideas email, follow him on X @AdamMGrossman and check out his earlier articles. NO. 53: STRIVING toward our goals is usually more satisfying than achieving them. Yes, we should think hard about our goals—but we should also ask whether we’ll enjoy the journey.
HALO EFFECT. If we admire one feature of a person or object, the good feelings can spill over into other areas, hurting our judgment. We love the huge markdowns at the car dealership—and find ourselves buying a vehicle we don’t especially like. We purchase a fund that performs well—and end up owning other funds from the same company that aren’t nearly as good.
NO. 37: WE ATTRIBUTE our winners to our own brilliance, a phenomenon known as self-attribution bias. Meanwhile, we blame our losers on others—the neighbor, financial advisor or TV pundit who suggested the investment. This makes it harder to learn from our mistakes, while boosting our self-confidence and increasing the risk of future missteps.
MAKE END-OF-LIFE decisions. Ponder who should make medical and financial choices for you if you’re incapacitated. Draw up powers of attorney that reflect those wishes. Add a living will, detailing what life-prolonging medical procedures you want taken. Decide whether to donate your organs. Specify what sort of funeral you want. Choose an executor.
NO. 53: STRIVING toward our goals is usually more satisfying than achieving them. Yes, we should think hard about our goals—but we should also ask whether we’ll enjoy the journey.
Recently, on the Saving and Gifting thread, I listed the organizations I support: “a reading service for the blind, the local hospice, Planned Parenthood, public radio and TV, and the [retirement] community’s benevolent fund”, to which I should have added Royal Oak, the US affiliate of the National Trust. I added that “having grown up in what some Americans no doubt consider a Socialist country [UK], I consider charity to be the job of the government,
SOME 90% OF TAXPAYERS claim the standard deduction on their tax return. Thanks to 2017’s Tax Cuts and Jobs Act, today’s standard deduction is larger than the itemized deductions of most taxpayers, including those who previously itemized.
But my wife and I are among the 10% of taxpayers who have continued to itemize, including each of the five years since I retired in 2018. Despite the much higher standard deduction for married couples over age 65,
MY MOM AND DAD split up when I was seven years old. Money was an issue for the rest of my childhood. Mom was rarely able to work fulltime and, according to her, child support and alimony were never enough.
When I started working a newspaper stand at age 12, I was expected to give 25% of my daily take for rent. Mom also demanded that I save at least 10%. Depending on the headlines,
GIVING GIFTS DELIVERS significant emotional and health benefits, or so says the research. But I find much depends on how the actual giving takes place.
My best giving lesson occurred many years ago. At a rural busstop on the island of Crete, off the coast of Greece, I sat next to an old local woman dressed in ragged clothing and torn shoes. Neither of us spoke the other’s language. She carried with her a small bag of fresh peaches and motioned for me to take one.
BUDGETS CAN BE a contentious topic. Some people swear by them. Others argue they’re unnecessary if you easily spend less than you make. No matter which side you take in this debate, I’d advocate budgeting for one item: kindness.
I’ve always enjoyed reading news stories about strangers who left unusually large tips for their waiter. After reading such stories, I’d daydream about where I’d leave large tips if I was that rich. One day,
GOT CHARITABLE giving on your mind? Join the crowd. Many folks donate at this time of year, with their charitable giving driven by the charities themselves.
As solicitations arrive, people decide on a case-by-case basis whether to pull out their checkbooks. But some folks follow a more structured process, and that’s the approach I favor. It includes asking these three questions:
1. How much ideally would you like to give? As a starting point,
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MOST OF US ARE forever striving to be better versions of ourselves—usually with mixed success. Still, the changing of the calendar often prompts renewed efforts. But what should we focus on? Let me offer 10 words that I try to live by.
1. Pause. Throughout the day, we make snap decisions, and they usually work out just fine—except when it comes to spending and investment choices. Got an overwhelming urge to buy an expensive bauble or make a portfolio change? Try waiting a few days, so your feverish desire has a chance to cool and you can ponder the decision with a clearer head.
2. Reflect. Feeling down? Take a minute to think about your good fortune—the friends and family who surround you, the home you live in, the wonderful experiences you’ve enjoyed, the wealth you’ve accumulated. With gratitude comes happiness.
3. Move. Exercise has all kinds of benefits—physical, emotional and cognitive. If possible, try to get your exercise outside, so you can delight in nature, see your fellow humans at play and feel the sun upon your face.
4. Give. This doesn’t have to be money. You can also give of your time by, say, volunteering for your favorite charity or helping out at your place of worship. I see this every day: HumbleDollar’s writers get paid little—and some decline payment—and yet they pour countless hours into their articles. Trust me, they’re a wonderful bunch of folks to work with.
5. Sleep. This is one of my greatest struggles. I know I sleep better when I’ve been active during the day, eat earlier in the evening and have addressed any major worries. What if these things don’t happen? You’ll find me answering emails at 4 a.m.
6. Simplify. Over the past few years, I’ve been shedding both possessions and financial accounts. I highly recommend it. It’s liberating to be less encumbered by both financial complexity and household items you no longer care about. Afraid you’ll dispose of something and later regret it? I’ve shed countless items and, thus far, I haven’t had a single pang of regret.
7. Talk. We, of course, do a lot of talking, but we often avoid the important stuff, especially when it comes to our finances. Too many folks shy away from honest conversations about money, partly because they fear they’ll reveal their ignorance or they’re embarrassed that they haven't amassed more.
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Get over it. Within families, I think the onus is on the parents to start these conversations, talking about what financial contributions they can afford to make toward college costs, how well they’ve prepared for their own retirement and what steps they’ve taken to address end-of-life issues. Such conversations don’t just keep everybody informed. They can also spur all concerned to be better managers of their money.
8. Listen. We tend to be much better at talking than listening. There’s an obvious reason to be a better listener: We can learn about others and their perspective on the world, and that may nudge us to change our own views. But there’s also a less obvious reason: People will like you more. Want to endear yourself? Stop talking about yourself and ask others about their lives.
9. Never. Our most important actions are often the ones we don’t take. Indeed, in a world full of temptation, it’s useful to decide what’s verboten. My list includes individual stocks, fried chicken, actively managed funds, hard liquor, CNBC and processed meats. (Okay, I admit it, pepperoni gets the all-important pizza exception.)
10. Anticipate. I love having fun times to look forward to. Last January, I made the arrangements for the get-together for my 60th birthday—which won’t happen until next month. In August, I booked a cruise from New York to Bermuda—for March 2024. Every so often, I daydream about what the cruise and my birthday celebration will be like, and that daydreaming offers a thoroughly enjoyable minute or so that costs me nothing.
Want to squeeze more happiness from your dollars? My advice: Plan that vacation, family reunion or remodeling project well in advance—and make sure you do a lot of research, so you have the pleasure of imagining all kinds of possibilities.
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- Looking to make charitable gifts? Because the standard deduction is now so high, fewer taxpayers are able to itemize deductions, and that can limit the tax benefit of donations. But there’s still a way to gain a tax benefit: If you have appreciated stocks in a taxable account, you can donate them to a donor-advised fund. That would allow you to sidestep the capital gains tax that would otherwise be due if you sold those stocks. Many donor-advised funds have no minimums, making this an easy choice, in my view.
- If you believe your estate will top the estate tax threshold (about $15 million per person at the federal level, but much lower in certain states), then I would be sure to use the annual exclusion (currently $19,000 per donor and per recipient) to make incremental gifts to your heirs. That's because this annual exclusion is in addition to the lifetime exclusion and doesn’t carry over from year to year.
Note that these gifts don't have to be made in cash if the recipients aren't yet in a position to receive them. As alternatives, you could make contributions to a 529 account or to a trust for their benefit, and these contributions would count toward the annual exclusion.Behavior
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